I like it when you Comment

Thank you to the people who have left comments on this blog. Please keep leaving them and, if you haven’t please start, if you’d like to.

I’ve thought a bit about why I am doing this. It is certainly helpful to my process to do this writing. But I could do it in my notebook. Some people who are also grieving for Jane have said that it’s helpful to them to read my account of this all. I am glad if it is doing that for you. One of my reasons for doing this is that it’s a good way of answering “how are you going?”. I’m also writing here because I like the attention. I like attention anyway but, particularly during this time, it is healing to me to know that people care about me and want to know what is going on for me. Thank you, Lovely People, my Family and Friends.

7 thoughts on “I like it when you Comment”

  1. I have not been leaving too many comments – but I have felt very close as you tell the story of your unfolding grief, your inner story.

    Anyway – off to the byyok! See you there.

  2. I’ve been thinking a lot about this while traveling in Europe. Makes me sad quite frequently as it often invades my thoughts, but I’m amazed at how much beauty you manage to wrap around something so profoundly unfair. I really feel for you. And like Walter, I feel honoured to share in some small way…

  3. Dear Daniel
    It is just wonderful having you here in Auckland with us all as we try to play a tiny part in the process you are going through. There is a huge sadness inside me for the riches that you have lost and my thoughts now focus on you and the days ahead. You deserved so many many years of happiness together – you created such a wonderful warm home for each other and for Ed and Elsie and on the two occasions that I could just “pop in” unannounced I felt so excited and privileged to be part of the family.

    So many cliches run in one’s head but it is good to read how you are feeling – one feels so inadequate oneself – what do you say, will it sound trite or banal? I guess that we can all just “be” who we are and that will help you.

    You are an amazing person and you have had an amazing relationship – hold on to all of that.

    Love Janet

    PS I did not mean to write anything, let alone a novel.
    J

  4. Both Yvonne and I enjoyed so much catching you for lunch the other day. I really do wish I was not so far away. I am, after all, supposed to be a near neighbour, not 3000kms away! I will continue to read your blog. It does much for me to engage with your very fine writing and your deep emotional expressions of love and grief. I, like others, feel privileged to have a window into your thoughts and feelings at this time.
    Brian

  5. So sorry to hear your news, your blog is refreshing and moving. The truth is always so sweet, I love your honesty about ‘maybe more time on the computer’, giving permission to yourself to be so expressive seems a wonderful way to grieve, a gift to your readers as well.

    how sad to loose your beutiful friend, and yet you tell us about her imprint in you.

    I don’t know you very well, however we were both at the Adalaide conference. Rob said the man who talked about ‘computers’. Annie Fisher

  6. Hello Dan,
    I’ve just learned about your loss recently and have read your recent entries and I’m writing, with tears in my eyes, quite literally.

    I cannot imagine what you’ve gone through and I wish I could personally do something to make it better.

    If anything, I want you to know that your story has touched me deeply. I’ve been married for almost exactly a year (August 28th) and after reading your posts, I want to stop working today and take my wife somewhere wonderful and tell her I love her over and over, just like you did over that dinner with 2 weeks to go.

    My thoughts are with you Dan.

  7. Dear Dan

    Thank you for understanding what it means to share with community, even in your grief. It is our privilege to be your network.

    Know how much life you generate when you allow your heart to remain open even as it is wrenched apart by grief. Know that we are all here to hold you as you weep, and that there is more love in the world than any of us can imagine.

    Thank you for letting us share our love with you as you share yourself with us, you extraordinary man who has given so much to us. Drink our support.

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