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Who You Are Not Spending Christmas With

Luke 2, 0-6 goes: “In those days a decree went out from Caesar Augustus that all the world should be enrolled. This was the first enrolment, when Quirin’i-us was governor of Syria. And all went to be enrolled, each to his own city. And Joseph also went up from Galilee, from the city of Nazareth, […]

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Death or Dumping

A bit over five years ago, my partnership of 16 years with Mary-Anne ended. Walter was a dear and loving frend to me as I went through that. One day, we were walking on the bank of the Heathcote River and Walter said to me that this was bad. Worse even than the death of […]

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Time Doesn’t Heal: The Only Way Out is In

Quite a few people have said to me that “time heals”. They were being kind, trying to say something helpful. I actually think it’s a myth, tho. What does happen over time is that memory of the loved and lost begins to fade and so the daily experience of pain at the loss reduces. You […]

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Update on the grieving process, E K-R and DABDA

You might have read my comparison between my own grieving process and the Eliz Kubler-Ross model (in the Pit and the Process). Well, here’s an update. With the vision of hindsight, I can now see that I’ve been through three clear stages: 1: Searing Pain (July, Aug, Sept) 2: Broken-heartedness (Sept, Oct, Nov) 3: Enlivenment […]

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Little Fish

Requiem for a Dream crossed with Neighbours? Not everybody rated Lantana but I did: five stars. I liked Somersault, too but Little Fish pushes at the envelope. For a while I wanted it to get started and regretted recommending it to Ed. Was this a dull suburban character drama? Who said I wanted to know […]